When couples talk about the things in their relationship they don’t like, they often use a specific phrase: It’s not fair! Which makes sense. It’s common to feel like a relationship should be fair.

Let me say it plainly: life is not fair. I don’t mean it in a pessimistic or bitter way. I mean it as someone who’s seen this reality from every side — in business, in friendships, across borders, and ...

When it comes to mental illness, there is so much that is unfair. It's not fair for a condition to strike someone typically just at the start of their adult life (ages 16-24) (Solmi et al., 2022).